Beautiful or indecent?

[beetle]

Do you find the picture beautiful or indecent?

 

Updated : July 28, 2018 11:18 IST

Image was posted by Jibon Ahmed, who later deleted the post.

 

 

 

The picture was taken in Bangladesh and it a topic of debate.

The photographer got beaten up and fired from his job.

 

https://www.ndtv.com/world-news/bangladesh-photographer-jibon-ahmed-clicks-pic-of-couple-kissing-in-rain-he-was-thrashed-fired-1891150?amp=1&akamai-rum=off

 

 

 

 

Edited July 28, 2018 by beetle

[beetle]

@UrmiSinhaRay.....take part in the poll.

[UrmiSinhaRay]

[mention=26024]UrmiSinhaRay[/mention].....take part in the poll.

Hehe thanks for inviting me... Nothing wrong with this pic or PDA In general.
Loving a person is not a crime.

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[Brainfade]

Neither. 

[Stradlater]

Against the sanskriti

[Stradlater]

52 minutes ago, UrmiSinhaRay said:

 

 

Hehe thanks for inviting me... Nothing wrong with this pic or PDA In general.
Loving a person is not a crime.

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There's everything wrong with it.

I hate when couples engage in public display of affection in front of me.

Makes me feel insecure of my looks and personality.

 

[zen]

Nothing wrong with it but PDA is not subcon style

 

Why? Because we have kids, parents, etc., all roaming on streets together which could make situation awkward for them 

 

[MechEng]

11 minutes ago, zen said:

Nothing wrong with it but PDA is not subcon style

 

Why? Because we have kids, parents, etc., all roaming on streets together which could make situation awkward for them 

 

Read the third para regarding subcontinent.

 

https://www-psychologytoday-com.cdn.ampproject.org/v/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hide-and-seek/201402/the-history-kissing?amp_js_v=a2&amp_gsa=1&amp&usqp=mq331AQCCAE%3D#referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com&amp_tf=From %1%24s&ampshare=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.psychologytoday.com%2Fus%2Fblog%2Fhide-and-seek%2F201402%2Fthe-history-kissing

[zen]

35 minutes ago, MechEng said:

Read the third para regarding subcontinent.

 

https://www-psychologytoday-com.cdn.ampproject.org/v/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hide-and-seek/201402/the-history-kissing?amp_js_v=a2&amp_gsa=1&amp&usqp=mq331AQCCAE%3D#referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com&amp_tf=From %1%24s&ampshare=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.psychologytoday.com%2Fus%2Fblog%2Fhide-and-seek%2F201402%2Fthe-history-kissing

what is the key point?

[beetle]

1 hour ago, zen said:

what is the key point?

That it is not so un Indian.

 

Vedic texts from ancient India seem to talk about kissing, and the Kama Sutra, which probably dates back to the 2nd century, devotes an entire chapter to modes of kissing. Some anthropologists have suggested that the Greeks learned about erotic kissing from the Indians when Alexander the Great invaded India in 326 BC. However, this need not mean that kissing originated in India, or indeed that it does not predate the oral roots of the Vedic texts.

[zen]

8 minutes ago, beetle said:

That it is not so un Indian.

 

Vedic texts from ancient India seem to talk about kissing, and the Kama Sutra, which probably dates back to the 2nd century, devotes an entire chapter to modes of kissing. Some anthropologists have suggested that the Greeks learned about erotic kissing from the Indians when Alexander the Great invaded India in 326 BC. However, this need not mean that kissing originated in India, or indeed that it does not predate the oral roots of the Vedic texts.

Ok .... But my point is on PDA, where it is good to maintain limits considering the sensitivities of others 

[UrmiSinhaRay]

@zen,
If people don't like PDA, they should Shut their eyes and try to distract themselves.
I

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[beetle]

21 minutes ago, zen said:

Ok .... But my point is on PDA, where it is good to maintain limits considering the sensitivities of others 

We are a strange nation.

We are comfortable with people fighting, but not comfortable with loving.

 

How far should one entertain the sensitivities of others. Some people are uncomfortable with even people of opposite genders talking or mingling.

Edited July 28, 2018 by beetle

[UrmiSinhaRay]

We are a strange nation.
We are comfortable with people fighting, but not comfortable with loving.
 
How far should onr entertain the sensitivitied of others. Some people are uncomfortable with even people of opposite genders talking or mingling.

I am of the opinion that if you don't like PDA, Shut your eyes and move on. Loving someone is not a crime.
The same people who beat up a couple in metro few months ago in Kolkata will not even intervene if they see a girl getting raped/molested or even a murder being committed.

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[zen]

1 hour ago, beetle said:

We are a strange nation.

We are comfortable with people fighting, but not comfortable with loving.

 

How far should one entertain the sensitivities of others. Some people are uncomfortable with even people of opposite genders talking or mingling.

The matters are being unnecessarily confused. The discussion is about what can be done in private, in public or at both .... and having general etiquette skills 

 

Here is a relatively nice take on PDA https://www.thespruce.com/etiquette-of-public-affection-1216896 

 

Have you ever witnessed a couple who couldn't keep their hands off each other in public? Does it make you feel uncomfortable? Even though public displays of affection have become fairly common, there's a line some people cross, taking it to the place of being inappropriate and causing others to squirm.

 

One rule of thumb in determining what is or isn't okay is to ask yourself if your grandmother would approve

 

As simple as that may sound, keep in mind that when you are out in public, there are likely to be people of all ages and sensibilities around.

 

Falling in love is wonderful, and when it happens, you may want the world to know. However, being too affectionate in public shows a lack of general etiquette skills. When you and your main squeeze make out in front of other people, they are likely to feel extremely uncomfortable.

 

Public displays of affection, also known as PDAs, may elicit a wide range of reactions from people around you. Some of the factors for tolerance include age, social norms, and customs. If you're not sure whether or not an action is okay in any social setting, you should probably hold off until you are in a more private situation. Wouldn't it be nicer to have people rooting for you rather than being embarrassed and running from you?

 

How much is too much?

Most people will agree that holding hands and occasional tender touches or glances are better ways to show your affection than groping.

 

Here are some basic rules for public displays of affection:

 

• Kisses – There are certain times it's okay to kiss the person you love, such as when you are greeting someone or saying goodbye. However, you shouldn't have a long, drawn out kiss in front of an audience unless you are acting on a stage. Even then it's questionable and should come with a rating. 
• Touching – It's almost always okay to hold hands with someone, unless it's awkward, dangerous, or impedes traffic. An arm draped around someone is okay when you are sitting or casually strolling through the park. It is never okay to touch anyone else in a private area in public.
• Groping – Groping is never acceptable in public. Certain gestures may even be illegal in public.
• Tastes and Nibbles – A face is not a lollipop, and you are not a vampire, so don't lick or bite the person you love in front of other people.
• Electronic Affection – You should never text, post, or communicate anything intimately personal in a broadcast message, public forum, or in any social network setting. Not only will your doing this make others uncomfortable, you may embarrass the person you love.

 

A more subtle touch or expression of affection can be much more romantic than an embarrassing PDA. A brief kiss on the cheek, a hand placed gently at the small of the back, and an exchanged glance can get the heart pounding and let those around you know that you are a couple without embarrassing them.

 

Where is it appropriate?

Remember that setting is an essential element to consider when you want to show your affection for someone.

 

Most teenagers and young adults know not to make out in front of their grandparents. However, they may smooch at the mall in front of other people's grandparents, and that's just as bad. You also don't want to exhibit R-rated behavior in front of anyone, especially impressionable children.

 

Please be considerate of others who have just as much of a right to be in a public location as you. A heavy make-out session in a crowded place shows a lack of respect. If you start to feel the urge to do something you're not sure about, stop and put a little space between you and the other person.

 

One place that PDA is never appropriate is at the office. If you are dating someone you work with, keep your hands and lips to yourself until after hours. Some companies frown on romantic relationships between employees, but even if they don't, they want you to focus on your work when you are on the company clock.

 

Reputation

You may not realize this, but too many PDAs in certain places, like school, can damage your reputation. People around you may think that if you do a lot of heavy petting in the hallways of academia, you're doing quite a bit more in private. This may not bother some people, but in the future, you may look back and wish you'd held back a bit.

 

Embarrassed by too much PDA?

If you find yourself in the embarrassing position of being in the presence of someone else's PDA, there are several ways to handle it. The response you get will depend partly on how you approach the situation.

 

Here are some things you can do:

• You may want to leave the area to avoid having to watch the PDA.
• If leaving isn't an option, or you really want to be there, you may politely ask the couple to hold off until later. You can even make a comment, such as, "Ah, young love. I remember that. It's hard for me to watch now because it reminds me of how old I am." Even if you're not old, you'll send the message that the action is making you uncomfortable.
• Another thing you can do is come right out and let the couple know that their behavior is unacceptable in public. Since this is more direct, you may get a response that is equally confrontational.

 

Edited July 28, 2018 by zen

[zen]

1 hour ago, UrmiSinhaRay said:

@zen,
If people don't like PDA, they should Shut their eyes and try to distract themselves.
I

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PDA is not a new topic. The discussion is about what can be done in private, in public or at both .... and having general etiquette skills  

 

Please refer to the above post for more on PDA etiquettes, while below are some basics:  

 

"Here are some basic rules for public displays of affection:

 

• Kisses – There are certain times it's okay to kiss the person you love, such as when you are greeting someone or saying goodbye. However, you shouldn't have a long, drawn out kiss in front of an audience unless you are acting on a stage. Even then it's questionable and should come with a rating. 
• Touching – It's almost always okay to hold hands with someone, unless it's awkward, dangerous, or impedes traffic. An arm draped around someone is okay when you are sitting or casually strolling through the park. It is never okay to touch anyone else in a private area in public.
• Groping – Groping is never acceptable in public. Certain gestures may even be illegal in public.
• Tastes and Nibbles – A face is not a lollipop, and you are not a vampire, so don't lick or bite the person you love in front of other people.
• Electronic Affection – You should never text, post, or communicate anything intimately personal in a broadcast message, public forum, or in any social network setting. Not only will your doing this make others uncomfortable, you may embarrass the person you love."

 

Edited July 28, 2018 by zen

[Stradlater]

2 hours ago, UrmiSinhaRay said:

I am of the opinion that if you don't like PDA, Shut your eyes and move on. Loving someone is not a crime.
The same people who beat up a couple in metro few months ago in Kolkata will not even intervene if they see a girl getting raped/molested or even a murder being committed.

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I used to think you were a bro

Didn't take you for a woman.

[Tibarn]

[Texy]

Ya have 10 kids from 4 diff women ...but pda in public that’s where we draw the line 

[surajmal]

tharki saala. probably beat off to it when got home.