Rajiv Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 Just watching this movie, not sure how many have seen it but...if something similar came upon ! what would u do and how would u handle it Please respond genuinely, no bravdo just coz its the net For those who haven't seen it You are in your final year in MIT, great life, a job lined up and great future Alas, you get a call from India where you have to get married in 1 month ( so the in-laws can pay the debts off, or its a condition ) to save your family from going to the street due to bad financial decisions. The family owes money to people who can get you shot as well on top of legal issues Now, India doesn't have debt settlement ( I think ) - what would you do! Sacrifice and get married quickly Ask them to quickly run away with you to the US ( considering they have US visas ) Go away to a different city in India ( if US is not an option ) Refuse and dont care about it Some other solution
satishg Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 so within a month i have to pay off all the financial debts is it. I think thats what you are explaining, because if the debts can wait then i am sure i can pay off in due time since i have a great job lined up. But given from your premise i am thinking its just a 1 month deadline or the family goes downhill, well if that is the case then yes ill marry that girl provided the girl is atleast look-worthy :D
DomainK Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 Interesting. I have not seen the movie, but the situation is likely. so within a month i have to pay off all the financial debts is it. I think thats what you are explaining' date=' because if the debts can wait then i am sure i can pay off in due time since i have a great job lined up. But given from your premise i am thinking its just a 1 month deadline or the family goes downhill, well if that is the case then yes ill marry that girl [b']provided the girl is atleast look-worthy :D What if the girl is not? But she comes from a rich family?
satishg Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 Interesting. I have not seen the movie, but the situation is likely. What if the girl is not? But she comes from a rich family? hmm too many conditions man. Okay to be honest ill look into my family's well being, because it is because of them that i well in this instance have landed up with a great job. My family would have made sacrifices to have sent me to MIT and so atleast according to me that thought would predominate my thinking in this case and so yes will do what it takes to bring them out of this situation safely. Also even if they have US visas, i would not take that risk because, from the case above it is quite evident that they have landed in a big mess and that too with bad people. So even if i bring them to US i am not sure these guys would leave us. So will take the safer option and will think about my life as to what to do later. This is how i would react!!
Rajiv Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 Feel the scenario, its desperate time Forget look-worthy Think Later and all that Its action time - and something practical
Rajiv Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 hmm too many conditions man. Okay to be honest ill look into my family's well being, because it is because of them that i well in this instance have landed up with a great job. My family would have made sacrifices to have sent me to MIT and so atleast according to me that thought would predominate my thinking in this case and so yes will do what it takes to bring them out of this situation safely. Also even if they have US visas, i would not take that risk because, from the case above it is quite evident that they have landed in a big mess and that too with bad people. So even if i bring them to US i am not sure these guys would not leave us. So will take the safer option and will think about my life as to what to do later. This is how i would react!! A bhai will come to US?
satishg Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 A bhai will come to US? well i don know about that, anyway practically speaking i will do the thing that i had mentioned above.all the above mentioned points are assuming it is a very serious situation.
Rajiv Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 satish, I couldnt figure out ur solution--u say whatever it takes but what exactly
satishg Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 sacrifice and get married quickly. i thought i mentioned that in my post.
Rajiv Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 Hmm, show me hmm too many conditions man. Okay to be honest ill look into my family's well being, because it is because of them that i well in this instance have landed up with a great job. My family would have made sacrifices to have sent me to MIT and so atleast according to me that thought would predominate my thinking in this case and so yes will do what it takes to bring them out of this situation safely. Also even if they have US visas, i would not take that risk because, from the case above it is quite evident that they have landed in a big mess and that too with bad people. So even if i bring them to US i am not sure these guys would leave us. So will take the safer option and will think about my life as to what to do later. This is how i would react!!
DomainK Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 sacrifice and get married quickly. i thought i mentioned that in my post. And hope desperately that she turns out to be a good wife.:haha:
satishg Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 Hmm, show me hmm too many conditions man. Okay to be honest ill look into my family's well being, because it is because of them that i well in this instance have landed up with a great job. My family would have made sacrifices to have sent me to MIT and so atleast according to me that thought would predominate my thinking in this case and so yes will do what it takes to bring them out of this situation safely. Also even if they have US visas, i would not take that risk because, from the case above it is quite evident that they have landed in a big mess and that too with bad people. So even if i bring them to US i am not sure these guys would leave us. So will take the safer option and will think about my life as to what to do later. This is how i would react!! sorry i meant in my first post..highlighted below so within a month i have to pay off all the financial debts is it. I think thats what you are explaining' date=' because if the debts can wait then i am sure i can pay off in due time since i have a great job lined up. But given from your premise i am thinking its just a 1 month deadline or the family goes downhill, [b']well if that is the case then yes ill marry that girl provided the girl is atleast look-worthy :D
satishg Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 And hope desperately that she turns out to be a good wife.:haha: these are all hypothetical situations :giggle::winky: anyway so what would you do?
Rajiv Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 oh!, so u will marry and get the cash - now, that u r - will u divorce her after some time coz u got the cash and saved ur family
satishg Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 dude how many situations would you put me in :D you have got the answer from me for the actual question..now other people have to respond. anyway to answer your second question, no i wont divorce her!!
Rajiv Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 I said in my 1st post Please respond genuinely, no bravdo just coz its the net You said, - no divorce, but since this was marriage of convenience, wouldn't it cross ur mind that u can go back to ur life which u paused U could take her too!
satishg Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 but it was a decision taken with my full knowledge, before taking the decision i would have thought about the implications. I would not use a female like that just for my convenience and let her go later. Since i had committed to this situation, i will go through the entire thing the right way, in this case stick to the marriage that helped me when i was in trouble.
nikred Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 but it was a decision taken with my full knowledge' date=' before taking the decision i would have thought about the implications. I would not use a female like that just for my convenience and let her go later. [b']Since i had committed to this situation, i will go through the entire thing the right way, in this case stick to the marriage that helped me when i was in trouble. Now you are thinking only from your point of view. What about your poor wife who hates the situation she is in, what if she wants divorce? :P
DomainK Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 In such a situation, I would go for the marriage. And I would be honest to the marriage and hope, as I said, that she turns out to be a good wife. Divorce would not be an option unless it is really very bad.
satishg Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 In such a situation' date=' I would go for the marriage. And I would be honest to the marriage and hope, as I said, that she turns out to be a good wife. Divorce would not be an option unless it is really very bad.[/quote'] beat me to it..i was about to type the same thing.. anyway to answers Nikreds question, well if my wife is really unhappy and if she wants a divorce then yes i would go with it since marriage is not a one-way road :winky:
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