theguyinallblue Posted January 8, 2007 Share Posted January 8, 2007 http://www.dawn.com/2007/01/08/int9.htm 70-year-olds marry each other?s young daughters By Syed Rashid Husain RIYADH, Jan 7: A simple case of 'you marry my daughter and I'll marry yours?. Two Riyadh business partners, in their 70s, have married the teenage daughters of each other, to strengthen business ties, reported Saudi women's magazine Sayidaty, a sister publication of the Jeddah based Arab News. "A man has the right to marry. When it comes to marriage, there is no stopping point," said Al-Dossary, a man in his 70s with silver hair, grey beard and grey eyebrows. "We have followed Islamic principles in the way we conducted our marriages and we are both happy with our wives," he added. Al-Dossary married off his teenage daughter to his business partner and in turn married his partner's teenage daughter. His partner, Saif Al-Qahtani, said: "It is true that our arranged marriages are strange, yet this does not mean that we are the only people to have married in this way, either in the past or the present. Anyhow, the main purpose of marriage is to protect men and women and we have both achieved this through our marriages." He added: "It took us only two months to decide and then arrange our marriages. It all began when my friend, Al-Dossary, continuously expressed the desire to marry." Al-Dossary added: "It is true that I wanted to marry. I proposed to several girls but all refused. One day I decided to ask Al-Qahtani to give me one of his daughters. He agreed immediately, but in return he asked me for my daughter. I was surprised because he already had three wives; however, I agreed since I had a young daughter who was of marriageable age." Al-Qahtani commented: "Yes, I asked him to give me his daughter in return. When he asked for one of my daughters, I thought I couldn't refuse him because of our friendship. I knew that if I did refuse his request, our business would be affected. I didn't have any other choice. I agreed to give him my daughter and take his daughter in return.? "We met our deadline and we have now been married for a year and a half," he said. When asked if they had consulted their daughters, Al-Qahtani said: "I did not ask my daughter. I don't have to. I know what is beneficial for her. When I told her what I had planned, she was happy. If she hadn't been, she would have told her mother." He said: "Saudi girls, especially bedouins, prefer to marry old men. This is what my third and fourth wives have both told me. They keep telling me they are glad that they did not marry young men." When asked if they have had children by their young brides, Al-Qahtani said with enthusiasm: "I have already had a daughter and my wife is now pregnant again. Al-Dossary has not had any yet but he has many from previous wives." Reacting to allegations of misbehaviour, Al-Dossary said: "We do not think of our daughters as entities to profit from. If I were of such a mind, then I would have married my daughter to men who asked for her and offered me lots of money; however, I refused them because of their unacceptable manners and behaviour." Al-Qahtani said that some of my cousins have refused to accept the marriages, not because of the idea but because one of them wanted to marry my daughter. However, he couldn't provide the dowry I asked for and, therefore, I didn't give him my daughter. I have forgotten about him." When asked if they plan to use this strategy to marry again, Al-Qahtani said: "I cannot marry again as I already have four wives, but no one knows what will happen in the future. However, if I were to remarry, I would marry one of my cousins and would have no problem in offering one of my daughters in return." Al-Dossary said: "I am satisfied with my three wives but as Al-Qahtani said, no one knows the future. If I am to marry and the father of the girl or her brother asks me to give him one of my daughters, then I would agree. I would even agree if he asked for one of my granddaughters." Commenting on the story, Ali Nasir, a social researcher at the Education Ministry, said: "The problems that are currently present in Saudi and Arab society in general are due to easy-going attitudes toward marriages. Although there are rules and laws in some Arab countries that demand respect between men and women, in Saudi Arabia customs and traditions still remain in control. How could two old men treat their daughters as objects? How can they ignore the basic age differences?" He added that having read a transcript of the men's interviews, he could clearly see that they had no respect for women. "They did not even consult their daughters. They also said that they were ready to marry again in a similar fashion." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beetle Posted January 8, 2007 Share Posted January 8, 2007 Re: Tera Mera..Mera Tera obviously ...there will be no fatwa against it......maybe he was guided by some mullah himself! sick bastards can't even leave their daughters.......what was the need to exchange...they might as well have raped them themselves ...it wouldn't have made any difference. This happens in India too.....something like this was in the news in Rajisthan some yrs back! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theguyinallblue Posted January 8, 2007 Author Share Posted January 8, 2007 Re: Tera Mera..Mera Tera one could understand that because of poverty... the family married the girl to an old person...this happens in india also...in villages etc but trading own daughters for business... pathetic... such examples can be found in india also... like father molesting or raping daughters..... i feel sick when i hear such news... sometimes i wonder why some humans or basically males ( not all) behave so eccentrically? why don't we hear such news like women doing such things..? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beetle Posted January 8, 2007 Share Posted January 8, 2007 Re: Tera Mera..Mera Tera nah sandeep!.........exactly the same case happened and was justified the same way...our religion justifies this...or we are allowed to do this by our religion......it was in 'India today'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beetle Posted January 8, 2007 Share Posted January 8, 2007 Re: Tera Mera..Mera Tera >>why don't we hear such news like women doing such things..? physically not easy...thank God ...otherwise woh bhi sunte..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theguyinallblue Posted January 8, 2007 Author Share Posted January 8, 2007 Re: Tera Mera..Mera Tera one of the many things i dislike about islam is the permisson to have more than one wife... why would a man marry 4 wives..? what was the logic of prophet behind such idea? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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