Singh bling Posted December 23, 2015 Share Posted December 23, 2015 Yes. Do you just abandon someone you married? The mature thing to do is to support her, but ask the in-laws to pitch in some for her treatments. It is ridiculously inhumane to simply kick her out when what she needs is someone to help her. What if she was diagnosed a day after the wedding? Surely, he'd be obligated then. I don't see the difference. Why ? Is marriage so sacred? The way in India arrange marriages happen with lies from both sides there is nothing wrong if one side told very big lie. Everybody don't have heart of mother teresa.there are lot of women these days who return Baraat or leave their husband if big lie is told and they are celebrated as modern new age women.The argument of before and after marriage is equally applicable on them so why men are obliged to support a woman who was married with a lie ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brainfade Posted December 23, 2015 Share Posted December 23, 2015 Why ? Is marriage so sacred? The way in India arrange marriages happen with lies from both sides there is nothing wrong if one side told very big lie. Everybody don't have heart of mother teresa.there are lot of women these days who return Baraat or leave their husband if big lie is told and they are celebrated as modern new age women.The argument of before and after marriage is equally applicable on them so why men are obliged to support a woman who was married with a lie ?So, two wrongs somehow make a right? Nice try. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Singh bling Posted December 23, 2015 Share Posted December 23, 2015 So, two wrongs somehow make a right? Nice try. What nice try ,First allow dating for 1 year before marriage for Indian couples and then say they should not break the marriage. You know this is one of biggest problem of India apne ghar kaa beta beti kaisa bhee ho bas chep do dusre ko kyon ki marriage todna to galat hai.I support both men and women married with a lie about the other person has physical or mental problem irresponsible ,alcholic etc to break the marriage . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brainfade Posted December 23, 2015 Share Posted December 23, 2015 (edited) What nice try ,First allow dating for 1 year before marriage for Indian couples and then say they should not break the marriage. You know this is one of biggest problem of India apne ghar kaa beta beti kaisa bhee ho bas chep do dusre ko kyon ki marriage todna to galat hai.I support both men and women married with a lie about the other person has physical or mental problem irresponsible ,alcholic etc to break the marriage .So, the parents did not disclose her illness. She was likely not allowed to speak to him before marriage. He married her, so now dump her? With the information available, I really don't see what her fault is. If you married someone, you make a commitment. You seem like the kind of guy who'd probably dump her if she got "physical problem" an hour after the wedding.I do agree that her parents bear some responsibility, and must do whatever they can to help with the treatment. Edited December 23, 2015 by Moth2Flame Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Singh bling Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 So, the parents did not disclose her illness. She was likely not allowed to speak to him before marriage. He married her, so now dump her? With the information available, I really don't see what her fault is. If you married someone, you make a commitment. You seem like the kind of guy who'd probably dump her if she got "physical problem" an hour after the wedding.I do agree that her parents bear some responsibility, and must do whatever they can to help with the treatment. Why can't you see her fault , If she wanted to start relationship on the basis of truth then she should had told him about her illness, she is also a silent partner in crime .Anyway looks like you support traditional Indian mentality that by hook or crook get your son or daughter married.Also what about the cases where irresponsible sons are married with by parents by telling how their sons are earning so much money and only after marriage woman discover that he is earning nothing or very few. these type of cases are found plenty compared to above and woman suffer the most when she knows the truthIf younger generation of India wants change then they have to be part of it. Its not like as long tradition helps you then you are O.K with it but the minute it is against you then you start blaming.If parents are arranging your match by deceiving someone then its your duty to tell him/her about the truth O/W you are part of crime. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fineleg Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 (edited) She should have disclosed to him BEFORE marriage decision made. Same as guy needs to disclose (BEFORE decision made) if he has smoking or gambling habit (which the parents hide too) Edited December 24, 2015 by fineleg Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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