fineleg Posted February 14, 2008 Share Posted February 14, 2008 You will find that parents who actually talk to their children about sex and prepare them for it in general have FAR better relations with their kids' date=' not to mention, kids in general end up being more responsible about it. [/quote'] Gotta agree. However parentz need to walk a delicate line in how they approach and talk abt it. Sex education at schoolz helps too, and parents then have a thread of topic they can use to talk abt it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chaos Posted February 14, 2008 Share Posted February 14, 2008 i wonder some people here also chat in desi torrent's adult chat a lot! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest HariSampath Posted February 14, 2008 Share Posted February 14, 2008 How sad. You will find that parents who actually talk to their children about sex and prepare them for it in general have FAR better relations with their kids, not to mention, kids in general end up being more responsible about it. Sex is a huge thing when you are a teenager and it sure helps if an adult you can trust tells you how to cope with it or what to expect from it. I don't find it a coincidence at all that desi parents hardly ever talk about sex with their kids and desis have the highest AIDS cases along with the largest prostitution industry in the world. CLosing off discussion on such topic usually leads to rash/irresponsible choices atleast once or twice by the young man/woman because instead of guiding them in their prime instinct, you've chosen to abandon them. Again you miss the point I was making alltogether. I had never said I would run away from the mention of the word sex, from a 8-11 year old daughter/niece, but I had even said I would not mind discussing a scantily clad model or sexuality with girl kids, but I DO have a problem with watching or discussing porno films in the same manner as watcing a sexy ad selling a cosmetic...but these subtleties would naturally be beyond you, and we all know how you would ralate to a daughter...so keep it to yourself... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lurker Posted February 14, 2008 Share Posted February 14, 2008 Man, whats with all these sex threads these days :nervous: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suraj Posted February 14, 2008 Share Posted February 14, 2008 Man' date=' whats with all these sex threads these days :nervous:[/quote'] sex is good:dance: although doing it is better than talking about it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holysmoke Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 no contest Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest HariSampath Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 Man' date=' whats with all these sex threads these days :nervous:[/quote'] yeah...but seems everyone is happy and the forum buzzing :haha: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desi Cartman Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 sex is good:dance: although doing it is better than talking about it Post of the day :two_thumbs_up: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rajiv Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 You see models/actresses in shower or in a swimming pool showing off their skin and how the product such as a soap or lotion has helped them be more attractive. I wonder what is the difference between these Models and a real porn star. One is showing half of her assets the other one is showing her assets totally? Why discriminate then socially? Dont you agree? I see your point, the model actress take you to that edge but never exposes everything, and a porn star ( a licensed ) version of "bare none" is considered bad Well, goes back to the basics? why do we cover ourselves and just hide the private parts..coz society deemed it "shame shame" thus the skin show is OK but full monty is all bad Truth is, we are all hypocrites and we want to go full monty all the time but are just ashamed to admit it ---------- On the other hand, I don't find a difference between a gold digger and a prostitute! Society should see them as one I have sympathies with the prostitute as she probably didn't choose do it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desi Cartman Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 I have sympathies with the prostitute as she probably didn't choose do it I know what you mean & I agree as well. A friend of mine always mentioned "Bichari" whenever he went to a strip club (ie before he took a lap dance from all bicharis :giggle:). Al though I don’t think its true in the western countries or the more organized version in India. There are some college girls/boys who do it for extra $ in India these days. As for the argument that some in Aus, US etc people do it so they can go to college seems a little over the top. I mean cant they take a student loan and work at a grocery store for the pocket money ? To conclude , of course its their life and they make choices but I honestly don’t believe that in US , Canada or Aus they are" haalaat ki maari " to get into this Business. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rajiv Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 ...look at any pro's face, you think they enjoy what they are doing? be it anywhere Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desi Cartman Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 ...look at any pro's face' date=' you think they enjoy what they are doing? be it anywhere[/quote'] But they do have options and they chose this .. didnt they ? Its not like that in Melbourne their kids wont go to school or wont get medical attention etc etc … A simple job anywhere or the govt benefit should be enough to avoid a profession that they don’t want. I used to work at a place that was just opposite to a brothel in Melbourne and believe me some of the "workers" had some of the most expensive cars I have seen till date. Its easy money and a lot of it. Some people choose to take this path and its their choice. All I am saying is that if you are into a profession like this then I wont have much sympathy unless I believe that they didn’t have a choice which is usually the case in western countries. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rajiv Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 ..offcourse there is a margin but I am talking about the street side pro's Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desi Cartman Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 ..offcourse there is a margin but I am talking about the street side pro's There arent many of those in melbourne. Prostitiution is legalised in melbourne but yes there are few on the streets and yes I feel bad for them too.:(( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zap_Brannigan Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 To OP, I agree with you. Porn or Modeling basically comes down to selling ones body (be it male or female). I don’t see a difference in either and both are accepted by me. One could argue than a doctor is selling his brain for money too, but that is for another day. Anyway, I don’t think this just stops at modeling or acting. I’ve seen girls flirting or not objecting to flirting by teachers so that they can get higher scores. Have seen girls flirting to get favors. Even at work, I’ve seen the female species flirting more with the higher ups than the rookie. Free drinks in clubs, free dinner on dates, extravagant gifts etc. Doesn’t all that come under this category as well? The only difference being, some are accepted in some culture while some aren’t. In a normal date, I usually pay for dinner, entertainment and in return expect to get laid. I can see it as paying for sex or I can see it as “just another date†Isn’t it a norm in India for the parents to look for men who earn higher than their daughters as her suitor? Why is that? Isn’t it a norm to see a rich guy with a beautiful wife? It does happen the other way too. So it happens all the time, all over the world. In some cases it is accepted and in some cases it is even expected. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CC1981 Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 nice, condensed and interesting post, Zappy. I am slowly beginning to see the 'flirtatious and flashy type of women for career/social status reasons' and you have no idea how much of a turn-off it is for me. Btw, several months ago, i was close to hooking up back with with ex-gf of mine(who is a friend still) but i was put off by how much she flirted with her professor coz she wanted to get a good grade on the finals. Its not that i am the jealous type or that i think women should cover up and not expose themselves, i am a firm believer in 'you get what you put in'. And if you treat your body/looks like an object of desire only (instead of a physical window/contact point to your spiritual self), then that is how it will be treated and that is how it aught to be treated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fineleg Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 In a normal date' date=' I usually pay for dinner, entertainment and [b']in return expect to get laid. . :hmpf: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rajiv Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 To OP, I agree with you. Porn or Modeling basically comes down to selling ones body (be it male or female). I don’t see a difference in either and both are accepted by me. One could argue than a doctor is selling his brain for money too, but that is for another day. Anyway, I don’t think this just stops at modeling or acting. I’ve seen girls flirting or not objecting to flirting by teachers so that they can get higher scores. Have seen girls flirting to get favors. Even at work, I’ve seen the female species flirting more with the higher ups than the rookie. Free drinks in clubs, free dinner on dates, extravagant gifts etc. Doesn’t all that come under this category as well? The only difference being, some are accepted in some culture while some aren’t. In a normal date, I usually pay for dinner, entertainment and in return expect to get laid. I can see it as paying for sex or I can see it as “just another date†Isn’t it a norm in India for the parents to look for men who earn higher than their daughters as her suitor? Why is that? Isn’t it a norm to see a rich guy with a beautiful wife? It does happen the other way too. So it happens all the time, all over the world. In some cases it is accepted and in some cases it is even expected. I wanted to point that, but I assumed some might take it in the wrong sense..it's a good point and basically is it like the highest bidder wins the prize? I think so Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CC1981 Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 t's a good point and basically is it like the highest bidder wins the prize? I think so Yup. Which is why i never discuss my income with my girlfriends until much later...not a question of how much(or little, depending on perspectives) i make, its a question of 'it shouldn't matter as long as i am holding my own and not mooching off of you'. Ofcourse, desis take it to an extreme, where they will boldly ask you your income and if your income happens to be at an eye-catching level for them, they will happily gloat it to their daughter while introducing you to them...happens all the time when i go back to India and hang around Delhi or Kolkata (two cities i visit always when in India due to family connections)....its embarassing for me to see the fathers act that way...coz it comes across as if they are salesmen trying to 'close a deal/make a sale'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beetle Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 I wanted to point that' date=' but I assumed some might take it in the wrong sense..it's a good point and basically is it like the highest bidder wins the prize? I think so[/quote'] That is the way nature made most females rajeev.They look for a solid nest for their offsprings.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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