Old guy Posted February 4, 2012 Share Posted February 4, 2012 They get to serve their husbands in heaven (as per the quran and hadith) but arent husbands with 72 virgins?:sniffle: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Number Posted February 4, 2012 Share Posted February 4, 2012 They get to serve their husbands in heaven (as per the quran and hadith) but arent husbands with 72 virgins?:sniffle: :haha: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
f.b.m Posted February 4, 2012 Share Posted February 4, 2012 What happens to female Jihadis? Do they get dicked by 72 Male virgins? :hmmm: 72 mother in laws.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needforspeed Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 but arent husbands with 72 virgins?:sniffle: :hysterical::hysterical: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beetle Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Dude how on earth can you look at a celebrity and just conclude their marriage is happy? for all you know they are lots of fight, abuse, beating going on. Some women who go for arrange marriage are submissive. There is a lot of family involvement and pressure, so the decision to split is not easy to take no matter how wrong the marriage is. One who cannot decide whom to marry and their parents chose their partners, will also not decide when to seperate until their parents consent. Can you show me data to conclude that its more likely if its a love marriage? There are 0% divorces in villages. but there are lots of instance of domestic abuse, mistreatment. Wonder why there are still no divorces Wherever women are enpowered they do not take abuse and mistreatment lying down. Once a woman is independent she does not need a guy to support her. these women can also afford divorces. a women who has led a sheltered life, who has no source of income, and her parents wont have her back, plus she has children to support. Can such a women go for divorce? Dont mistake compromise for happiness BTW an outsider can mostly never tell when a marriage is unhappy. There are great men in the outside world who have been domestic abusers and no one knew till their wives mustered up courage to complain There are many things wrong in this land which claims to worship women. And surprisingly, all of them somehow are things which make women compromise. Women are made to adhere to dress codes to protect our culture. But no restrictions on youth who go around molesting and eve-teasing women. Hue and cry when a porn video is shown. No such when women are raped almost everyday. A divorcee women is looked down uppn, so is a widow. Women cannot come home late as its not safe because of evil men roaming aroud. So who gets locked at home? The men or the women? Working women are supposed to manage home and children both but she does not dare earn more that the men in order to protect his fragile ego. In such an atmosphere, yes divorces are pretty rare in India Couldn't agree more. The women are made a slave to the big bad words like Parampara ,sanskriti and family values.Every thing is fine as long as the women(read the bride or the DIL) does not have an opinion. Women are raped and are said to have"lost their izzat" .How the bloody eff can you take someone's izzat while the rapist does not loose any off his izzat nor do his family members who leave him loose like a stray dog. Anyone who believes that everything is fine with the women in villages or homes with no divorces is just delusional. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
punjabi_khota Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I am sure the "pressure of society" works both ways. There are a plenty of husbands who are being tortured mentally by their wives. I mean just the fact that in homes with one tv, 7pm to midnight slot is taken by saas-bahu soaps, would want one to kick the wife out. :mad: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doozie Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Except for that fact that for most of those men letting the women watch their fav shows from 7pm to midnight constitutes as foreplay! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DomainK Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Except for that fact that for most of those men letting the women watch their fav shows from 7pm to midnight constitutes as foreplay! Women are known to be more horny than men in general. Most men have to live like Mihir Virani in day time and Emran Hashmi at night time. Men are treated like mere toys. :headshake: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doozie Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 ^+ Life's hard when you are a man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beetle Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I am sure the "pressure of society" works both ways. There are a plenty of husbands who are being tortured mentally by their wives. I mean just the fact that in homes with one tv' date=' 7pm to midnight slot is taken by saas-bahu soaps, would want one to kick the wife out. :mad:[/quote'] awwww:icflove: time to buy that second tv.:roti: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KhanSaab Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 awwww:icflove: time to buy that second tv.:roti: shhh khota enjoys those shows more than his wifey Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
achilles Posted February 6, 2012 Author Share Posted February 6, 2012 Women are known to be more horny than men in general. Most men have to live like Mihir Virani in day time and Emran Hashmi at night time. Men are treated like mere toys. :headshake: What an analogy man :hysterical: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lurker Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 Women are known to be more horny than men in general. Most men have to live like Mihir Virani in day time and Emran Hashmi at night time. Men are treated like mere toys. :headshake: You may have made that comment in light banter, but isnt that the truth DK? Lets get something in the open, because it needs to be in the open. As a nation/society we suck gloriously at this most natural of emotions. Now I am sure there are many folks who have a great sexual compatibility with their spouse but by and large it can be agreed upon that India is not exactly a very mature sexual society. Typically the stereotype goes thus: a) Indian male do not know what to do in bed, only cares about himself and gets done soon as he..well gets done. b) Indian female simply lies there. In other words men have to get into female mind to understand what they want, and women have to get in men's deemag ke what he wants. Now to be fair it cuts both ways. Women are also supposed to be this sati-savitri during day who should become a Rambha during night, just as much as the Indian chap you joked about. However is it Indian society fault or just the fault between two people? If you can not be open with the person you have married and will stay with forever whats the point of castigating the nation really? Maybe instead of blaming man, or woman, in the relationship have an open dialogue? Maybe ask to Quit moaning and suck it up. Or start moaning and well suck it lol...Man this thread is a jackpot for double entrende.. xxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DomainK Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 I think it's a fault between the two people, but the society does contribute to it majorly by arranging marriages between people without considering if they are compatible with each other. In most arranged marriages, families find a spouse good by standards set by the society - education, family background, caste, income ect, but they never really wonder how happy the two will be with each other. The result - loveless marriages. And loveless marriages are so common in Indian societies, it's unbelievable. Look around and you will find hundreds. They learn to live with each other, but they really don't love each other. It's more of a compromise they have accepted for life, because they know no other way. And in a loveless marriage, sex is usually the way you described. Neither have the slightest desire to know what would please the other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lurker Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 I think it's a fault between the two people, but the society does contribute to it majorly by arranging marriages between people without considering if they are compatible with each other. In most arranged marriages, families find a spouse good by standards set by the society - education, family background, caste, income ect, but they never really wonder how happy the two will be with each other. The result - loveless marriages. And loveless marriages are so common in Indian societies, it's unbelievable. Look around and you will find hundreds. They learn to live with each other, but they really don't love each other. It's more of a compromise they have accepted for life, because they know no other way. And in a loveless marriage, sex is usually the way you described. Neither have the slightest desire to know what would please the other. I couldnt agree more with the loveless marriage part. Where I am still making up my mind though is if it is entirely due to arranged marriages, or not. Too often love marriages go the same route. It is just that in those cases the protagonist dont blame anyone else (parents/society etc) but take full ownership. I do think sexual compatibility has a lot to do with a person's confidence in my opinion. If a woman is not confident enough to be open with her husband about her sexuality, and the man with his wife, there are little chances they would be real confident in real life as well. Maybe thats one reason most of our discussion go the whole parampara, sadiyon se satayi naari, bechaara mard route. Like politics, and cricket, noone takes responsibility for their own mess Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anotherhawkeye Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 And loveless marriages are so common in Indian societies, it's unbelievable. Look around and you will find hundreds. They learn to live with each other, but they really don't love each other. It's more of a compromise they have accepted for life, because they know no other way. And in a loveless marriage, sex is usually the way you described. Neither have the slightest desire to know what would please the other. I looked around and I can't find any. Can you please pass on whatever tool/methodology/software you are using the measure loveless marriage? I don't know how many times a couple **** in a week, short of putting a camera on their bedroom (then again, they may be doing it in the kitchen or car or public restroom). I can't even imagine some to have had sex their whole lives, though they have one or more children. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beetle Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 I think it's a fault between the two people, but the society does contribute to it majorly by arranging marriages between people without considering if they are compatible with each other. In most arranged marriages, families find a spouse good by standards set by the society - education, family background, caste, income ect, but they never really wonder how happy the two will be with each other. The result - loveless marriages. And loveless marriages are so common in Indian societies, it's unbelievable. Look around and you will find hundreds. They learn to live with each other, but they really don't love each other. It's more of a compromise they have accepted for life, because they know no other way. And in a loveless marriage, sex is usually the way you described. Neither have the slightest desire to know what would please the other. I doubt that they don't love each other.....it is the "falling in love" that sometimes doesn't happen.I wonder if it is possible not to love your life partner...the person you spend most of your time with assuming that both parties are reasonably good to each other.Lusting for each other is a different matter all together. I have a Mamaji...three kids ,fairly happy life .Both husband and wife are respectful to each other and seem to care for each other..I heard him once say that ...waisay bhi dus saal baad to husband wife bhi bhai behen jaise ho jaate hain.It was so sad.....their sex life ended in 10 years ....just as they stopped having kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vijay.Sharma Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 I think it's a fault between the two people, but the society does contribute to it majorly by arranging marriages between people without considering if they are compatible with each other. In most arranged marriages, families find a spouse good by standards set by the society - education, family background, caste, income ect, but they never really wonder how happy the two will be with each other. The result - loveless marriages. And loveless marriages are so common in Indian societies, it's unbelievable. Look around and you will find hundreds. They learn to live with each other, but they really don't love each other. It's more of a compromise they have accepted for life, because they know no other way. And in a loveless marriage, sex is usually the way you described. Neither have the slightest desire to know what would please the other.I know this is the case as shown by what people say but honestly I haven't come across any family like that. I mean you cannot make ou from their faces or by their actions that theirs is a loveless marriage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DomainK Posted February 7, 2012 Share Posted February 7, 2012 I doubt that they don't love each other.....it is the "falling in love" that sometimes doesn't happen.I wonder if it is possible not to love your life partner...the person you spend most of your time with assuming that both parties are reasonably good to each other.Lusting for each other is a different matter all together. I have a Mamaji...three kids ,fairly happy life .Both husband and wife are respectful to each other and seem to care for each other..I heard him once say that ...waisay bhi dus saal baad to husband wife bhi bhai behen jaise ho jaate hain.It was so sad.....their sex life ended in 10 years ....just as they stopped having kids. I know this is the case as shown by what people say but honestly I haven't come across any family like that. I mean you cannot make ou from their faces or by their actions that theirs is a loveless marriage. Well, it's not truly loveless, but let's call it "romance"-less. And we are not looking for neighborly love between husband and wife, are we? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vijay.Sharma Posted February 7, 2012 Share Posted February 7, 2012 Well' date=' it's not truly loveless, but let's call it "romance"-less. And we are not looking for neighborly love between husband and wife, are we?[/quote']That's what I meant - romance-less. I mean even with the most orthodox people I know I get the feeling they have their romantic moments behind closed doors. Even though they dont look like the naughty types it is very difficult for me to say that they are not at all romantic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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