bangladeshifan Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 you are in my ignore list then how did u see my this post :giggle: educated idiots now a days
beetle Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 what if son decieded how his Dad loooks with pants below his hips :hmmm: Beetlejee problem is with lower middle calss and even poor family's they cant show any incentives to make sue kids listen to them [we all know majority of India falls into which category] even now i watched a Father hitting his 3/4 year old Girl for some small issues...kid cried for a second then went onto play happily... ?????
Nova Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 My little one learn t to bite and refused to give it up. One day when she bit me I just sat on her....That shocked her and she has never done it again.I wonder if that is abuse... :omg: this is child abuse! :((
Zelig Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 u must hv deserved it:aetsch: Can't say no hmm now i knw y u mentally challenged. fee sorry for u bro :(( :dontmentionit: so what will be your answer if the Surveyor from Kaku's survey link came to you and asked about abuse.. I'm some what disciplined coz of 'em :hatsoff:
beetle Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 :omg: this is child abuse! :(( oye chup yaar...zor se thodina bethi thi...just acted like I was sitting on her zor se.
CSK Fan Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 IMO hitting a defenceless child who cannot hit you back is the worst thing ever. There are other ways of disciplining a child fromt aking his TV, playtime privelages, grounding him, etc which will equally work. Younger children can be made to sit in a corner or sent to their room. We seem to go by the theory that a parent knows best. Sometimes they dont. Often they are short on patience and frusturated because of theri work life and take it off on their kids. Just because a parent is physically stornger than a child, he gets away with the physical abuse. That doesnt make it right What does a child learn when he is hit? Only the value of fear. Its easiest thing for a parent to hit a child and get off the responsibilty of parenting. He could have tried to make the child understand abd be motivating but that would have taken longer. There are other grown up stuff for the parents to do so hit and control the child Whatever way we look at it, physical abuse is physical abuse. BTW my parents hit me occasionaly too and while I believe they are the best parents a child could ever have, I still believe the beatings part were wrong and I learnt nothing except fear from the hitting and it was an easy way out for them some kids can be devil incarnate and difficult to raise but respect and obidience can be installed in a child without physical abuse too. When you need to hit a weak, defenceless being who cannot hit you back, on some level you have failed as a parent. Its no different from a physically stronger human bullying a weaker one to bend him to his wishes. Whether its a husband hitting a wife, a bully at school, its all the same
akshayxyz Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 IMO hitting a defenceless child who cannot hit you back is the worst thing ever. There are other ways of disciplining a child fromt aking his TV' date= playtime privelages, grounding him, etc which will equally work. Younger children can be made to sit in a corner or sent to their room. We seem to go by the theory that a parent knows best. Sometimes they dont. Often they are short on patience and frusturated because of theri work life and take it off on their kids. Just because a parent is physically stornger than a child, he gets away with the physical abuse. That doesnt make it right What does a child learn when he is hit? Only the value of fear. Its easiest thing for a parent to hit a child and get off the responsibilty of parenting. He could have tried to make the child understand abd be motivating but that would have taken longer. There are other grown up stuff for the parents to do so hit and control the child Whatever way we look at it, physical abuse is physical abuse. BTW my parents hit me occasionaly too and while I believe they are the best parents a child could ever have, I still believe the beatings part were wrong and I learnt nothing except fear from the hitting and it was an easy way out for them some kids can be devil incarnate and difficult to raise but respect and obidience can be installed in a child without physical abuse too. When you need to hit a weak, defenceless being who cannot hit you back, on some level you have failed as a parent. Its no different from a physically stronger human bullying a weaker one to bend him to his wishes. Whether its a husband hitting a wife, a bully at school, its all the same If over-used, that can be termed as psychological abuse. And IMO it is not any better than physical abuse - if not worse.
DomainK Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 There is absolutely nothing wrong in raising hands on a child as long as it's limited to a few slaps. The west started this trend of not raising hands on the kids and other forms of punishment like "go to your room and stay there" and look how their teenagers are ending up.
Zelig Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 There is absolutely nothing wrong in raising hands on a child as long as it's limited to a few slaps. The west started this trend of not raising hands on the kids and other forms of punishment like "go to your room and stay there" and look how their teenagers are ending up. :headshake: Irish peeps are an exception. Russians too to a certain extent :agree:
Desi Cartman Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 There is absolutely nothing wrong in raising hands on a child as long as it's limited to a few slaps. The west started this trend of not raising hands on the kids and other forms of punishment like "go to your room and stay there" and look how their teenagers are ending up. IMO its about spending time and working with the kids. Neither sending to the room nor slapping them would work. we try naughty seat which is similar to sending them to another room. Teaching them responsibility can not be done with either. These options are used to show that there are consequences and once kids learn to accept consequences then its a massive fail. Remember the undisciplined - naughty kid in the neighborhood or class who used to get beaten up, did that beating fix anything ? Like I said in another thread, adults hit kids when ADULTS lose patience. Kids dont know the difference between right or wrong most of the time so adults need to work with them. Like Beetle said, most parents actually feel worse after hitting the child and then spoil them so there is no effect. I am not saying the parents should be send to prison for hitting kids unless its serious, all Im saying is, I have never ever come across a situation or an example where slapping the kid was only option and where it worked.
Desi Cartman Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 My parents used to beat me up send me their address and I will send them flowers just to thank them :icflove:
Zelig Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 send me their address and I will send them flowers just to thank them :icflove: :beee: Chemistry didn't work out between lil Zelig & his parents. Now, we are cool :yoyo:
EnterTheVoid Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 If you cannot discipline your children without hitting them, you got bigger problems.
CSK Fan Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 There is absolutely nothing wrong in raising hands on a child as long as it's limited to a few slaps. The west started this trend of not raising hands on the kids and other forms of punishment like "go to your room and stay there" and look how their teenagers are ending up. LMAO. You just have to go to any local school or village in India. Many of the kids bunk school, are into charas ganja, tease and assault women, etc. I have seen kids carrying knives and guns and getting into fights. So dunno how our troubled teenagers are worse than the kids in the west, only thing its highlighted more there. Of course in the higher end schools/colleges in India you wont notice the problem to such an extent but thats the same in the west too
akshayxyz Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 IMO its about spending time and working with the kids. Neither sending to the room nor slapping them would work. we try naughty seat which is similar to sending them to another room. Teaching them responsibility can not be done with either. These options are used to show that there are consequences and once kids learn to accept consequences then its a massive fail. Remember the undisciplined - naughty kid in the neighborhood or class who used to get beaten up' date= did that beating fix anything ? Like I said in another thread, adults hit kids when ADULTS lose patience. Kids dont know the difference between right or wrong most of the time so adults need to work with them. Like Beetle said, most parents actually feel worse after hitting the child and then spoil them so there is no effect. I am not saying the parents should be send to prison for hitting kids unless its serious, all Im saying is, I have never ever come across a situation or an example where slapping the kid was only option and where it worked. I have seen few cases where timely slaps did fix the things. Which is why I am saying - it is OK and it depends. Why are parents supposed to behave like Gandhi - at all the times -. I think they should be allowed to lose patience in extreme cases ( in controlled manner) or pretend to. In fact, any form of punishment is an expression of losing patience.
mhr123 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Don't worry...wasn't as bad as it looks......:--D but what's ur weight... poor sole :((
Lord Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 9pAHEcYnaAE :hysterical::hysterical::hysterical::hysterical::hysterical:
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