Khalpat Posted June 29, 2014 Author Posted June 29, 2014 Congratulations! + Create an environment of mutual trust between the team and between you-team + Create (unofficial?) sub-manager roles but be hands-on, discuss things at the lowest level but do not take ALL decisions at the lowest level + Be amenable. Do not accept every advice but do not resist from listening to them. + Do NOT let the initial resistance grin your peers bog you down, things will turn around - envy is human nature + Take them out for lunch/dinner (This depends on how you keep relationships at work. Personally, I wouldn't do this - my personal/professional sets overlap minimally) + Like everyone has already said - set targets. I would suggest you to meet everyone and define a concise road map for them. Discuss their career prospects and what they want to do with their lives. Tell them you are there to help it materialize (with or without the firm they are working for). Also, the last and the most important of this all based on the OP. AVOID appraisal of your team; there are two reasons for it 1 - It would be a bit unethical to appraise your team while being a part of it. The bias murmurs are not completely without basis. Ideally, you shouldn't be the one to appraise them - even if you do "Formally", ask the previous manager to write the appraisal ratings and you can "sign off" the form. 2 - It would make your managerial job much more comfortable and clean to start with. Why take the burden of someone else? No matter what dealing the management tries to give you, try to handle it with tact. Remember managing isn't about being right/wrong but about being ******smart******. My inputs were only based on the information I have from your post so take it with a pinch of salt. Thanks DM. Your post helped me a lot and yes avoiding appraisal is a good suggestion, but it seems their is no way out and I will have to take it as a challenge.
panesarv Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 Your friends should deal with it. You're their boss now. You're just doing your duty.
G_B_ Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 This happened to me. Ride it through. Quite frankly the office is not a place for lasting friendships. Networking maybe. But not friendship. Now i got some close friends from sixth form (high school to our american friends) and university. I maintain those friendships come what may. This means phoning once a week and talking for atleast 10 min. Especially for the one who is in singapore. Could not give a toss about what my team think about me in office. Dont be their friend. Dont be cruel but stamp your authority. If somebody in the group is undermining your authority, clip his/her wings. You need to be ruthless in this regard.
dial_100 Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 Get the peer reviews done for each one of them. Make sure there is a good mix of 4-6 ppl for each individual. Base your review on the feedbacks you get from 5 different ppl. That way you won't take the blame for anything. Its what others say about that individuals including business partners etc. Oh and 1 more thing.. Lead by the example. There is no better way to make your team aware that you mean business than showing it yourself. Good luck.
Mariyam Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 Many congratulations on your promotion. :icflove: Look at the situation objectively. These guys are your friends because they were your colleagues. It is not that you are colleagues who happened to be friends. Sure you guys would have grown close over the years. But don't let that over ride the factual reality of what the current organizational hierarchy. Also since these guys were your friends, some of them would be under the impression that its their guy in the management, and they can have their way. First of all, you'll have to clear that misconception. When you are at their designation, you tend to be friendlier. You can gossip about the bosses together, make fun of clients etc etc. It all bonds you guys together. But that you can't do now. So the only way to bond is arrange team dinners ( on company expense :P) etc. You'll have to segregate personal and professional lives, and not make it look rude. Easier said than done though. I can give you an example. When I was interning as a student, we had to do around 3 months of internship. My initial internship was over in 2.5 months and needed to intern for another 2 weeks. I joined my aunt's (who absolutely adores me) firm. I was under the misconception that I would get a certificate just for being there. I used to go late, leave early etc. She didn't say anything the first few days. Then she gave me a piece of her mind, in a very detached boss like manner. I ended up hating her at that instant for 'ruining' my holiday. But over the course of the next 6 weeks ( I extended the internship) I ended up actually working and learning a lot. So much so, that later again I've worked with her sometimes. And I respect her all the more for treating me the way she did. Had she treated me with kid gloves and/or in a friendly way I wouldn't have learned/grown as much. You'll have to do something of the sort.
King Tendulkar Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 Screw your so called friends and other agendas. Do whats best for the company. Do your job, that's what you been paid for!!! Same advice goes to captain corrupt
Khalpat Posted June 30, 2014 Author Posted June 30, 2014 Screw your so called friends and other agendas. Do whats best for the company. Do your job, that's what you been paid for!!! Same advice goes to captain corrupt I am a human being KT not a machine which can be suddenly programmed to screw everyone. Your advice is ofcourse correct but doesn't seem to be practical.
Khalpat Posted June 30, 2014 Author Posted June 30, 2014 Many congratulations on your promotion. :icflove: Look at the situation objectively. These guys are your friends because they were your colleagues. It is not that you are colleagues who happened to be friends. Sure you guys would have grown close over the years. But don't let that over ride the factual reality of what the current organizational hierarchy. Also since these guys were your friends, some of them would be under the impression that its their guy in the management, and they can have their way. First of all, you'll have to clear that misconception. When you are at their designation, you tend to be friendlier. You can gossip about the bosses together, make fun of clients etc etc. It all bonds you guys together. But that you can't do now. So the only way to bond is arrange team dinners ( on company expense :P) etc. You'll have to segregate personal and professional lives, and not make it look rude. Easier said than done though. I can give you an example. When I was interning as a student, we had to do around 3 months of internship. My initial internship was over in 2.5 months and needed to intern for another 2 weeks. I joined my aunt's (who absolutely adores me) firm. I was under the misconception that I would get a certificate just for being there. I used to go late, leave early etc. She didn't say anything the first few days. Then she gave me a piece of her mind, in a very detached boss like manner. I ended up hating her at that instant for 'ruining' my holiday. But over the course of the next 6 weeks ( I extended the internship) I ended up actually working and learning a lot. So much so, that later again I've worked with her sometimes. And I respect her all the more for treating me the way she did. Had she treated me with kid gloves and/or in a friendly way I wouldn't have learned/grown as much. You'll have to do something of the sort. Thanks Mariyam.
Khalpat Posted June 30, 2014 Author Posted June 30, 2014 This happened to me. Could not give a toss about what my team think about me in office. Dont be their friend. Dont be cruel but stamp your authority. I think this is something which I can give a try and closest to the solution of my problem.
Khalpat Posted June 30, 2014 Author Posted June 30, 2014 I would say be honest and fair. You will sleep well rest assured. Honest towards whom is the question ravi? As far as sleep is concerned, this had never been my problem, bahut khata hoon aur bahut sota hoon. :winky:
diga Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 Honest towards whom is the question ravi? As far as sleep is concerned' date=' this had never been my problem, [b']bahut khata hoon aur bahut sota hoon. :winky: Isliye manager bana hain kya? lots of advices there.. 1 more from me dont let the past to prejudice you.... Judge them for the work done under you
Crookbond Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 This happened to me. Ride it through. Quite frankly the office is not a place for lasting friendships. Networking maybe. But not friendship. Now i got some close friends from sixth form (high school to our american friends) and university. I maintain those friendships come what may. This means phoning once a week and talking for atleast 10 min. Especially for the one who is in singapore. Could not give a toss about what my team think about me in office. Dont be their friend. Dont be cruel but stamp your authority. If somebody in the group is undermining your authority, clip his/her wings. You need to be ruthless in this regard. Different cultures. In India, there (generally) is a high overlap of personal and professional circles. Europe, USA are a bit different.
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