Khalpat Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Hey ICFers need an advice from you guys, I have a situation: Good Part: I have been promoted as a Manager in my company and now there are team members who will be reporting to me. Bad Part: My project and team has not changed. Which means all the guys who have been my colleague and good friends from last 3 years, for them suddenly I am their boss now which has created a very awkward situation. Worst Part: One of the first task I have been given is to do the appraisal of the team. Suddenly their is a new set of expectation from some and new complaints of Biasness I am hearing. My seat has not been changed yet and it might not change for some time, so I am at the same seat sitting around the same guys find myself in a very tough scenario. Not sure how much boundary I should create. Not sure how should I change my attitude. Need help from the ICFers who would have gorn through similar situation of transition.
Khalpat Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 Are you talking about yourself or Modi? Bhai, in this thread I am talking about myself only. :haha:
EnterTheVoid Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Read this book, it is worth its weight in gold: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People
moniker Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Why create boundaries? Talk to them as friends just like before, but evaluate them professionally.
Vilander Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Be friendly and fair. Do not encourage bad mouthing and group-ism. Set clears goals - usually this drifts down from top so ask your Manager and clarify expectations for you and drill it down to your team. The best way is to give everyone a chance, its simple the one that takes the most pressure and delivers the most is at the top and it ascends down. Lots of books are available in this area. There are lots of difference between leading,directing and managing..a manager is not necessarily a leader, empower certain team members to lead but do not show favoritism or regionalism.
velu Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 I hate managers :mad: Sent from my Nexus 4 using Tapatalk
Khalpat Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 Read this book, it is worth its weight in gold: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People Sure, I will read this book. Have heard great reviews of this.
Texy Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Why not take everyone to lunch one day and talk to them directly? Set some goals, let them know it is your responsibility now to lead the team and despite what everyone might think, you would like to handle things professionally without jeopardizing friendships which are valuable to you.
Khalpat Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 Why create boundaries? Talk to them as friends just like before' date=' but evaluate them professionally.[/quote'] I think being exactly similar to how I was before is a strict no no because most of the time we were criticizing the higher management together. Things cannot be same now even if I want them to be.
Khalpat Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 Be friendly and fair. Do not encourage bad mouthing and group-ism. Set clears goals - usually this drifts down from top so ask your Manager and clarify expectations for you and drill it down to your team. The best way is to give everyone a chance, its simple the one that takes the most pressure and delivers the most is at the top and it ascends down. Lots of books are available in this area. There are lots of difference between leading,directing and managing..a manager is not necessarily a leader, empower certain team members to lead but do not show favoritism or regionalism. Thanks Man. I think these are good suggestions.
Khalpat Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 I hate managers :mad: Sent from my Nexus 4 using Tapatalk Good for you. :two_thumbs_up:
Vilander Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Read this book, it is worth its weight in gold: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People This and 7 habits best books on the planet you can add good to great with it and its done one is Jesus.
ravishingravi Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 http://youtu.be/7M7UUmT0uEo Since this is also a cricket forum.
ravishingravi Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 I would say be honest and fair. You will sleep well rest assured.
Desi Cartman Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Resign On a serious note, read this book, it's not outstanding but explains how to deal with the situation you mention http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1591391105?pc_redir=1403621943&robot_redir=1
randomGuy Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Congrats! Good advices by people. also I am sure your friends, who will now be reporting to you, are sincere and mature, n so will already know the expectations from a managers role that you have assumed.
Khalpat Posted June 29, 2014 Author Posted June 29, 2014 Congrats! Good advices by people. also I am sure your friends, who will now be reporting to you, are sincere and mature, n so will already know the expectations from a managers role that you have assumed. Thanks Man. I have serious doubts on Maturity of few of the guys.
randomGuy Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 Thanks Man. I have serious doubts on Maturity of few of the guys. I guess for those guys too, you wont want to be harsh, so you can adopt a more businesslike, no-nonsense demeanour than before. They will notice that and change accordingly. I am no expert, just like giving free advise. :D
Crookbond Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 Congratulations! + Create an environment of mutual trust between the team and between you-team + Create (unofficial?) sub-manager roles but be hands-on, discuss things at the lowest level but do not take ALL decisions at the lowest level + Be amenable. Do not accept every advice but do not resist from listening to them. + Do NOT let the initial resistance grin your peers bog you down, things will turn around - envy is human nature + Take them out for lunch/dinner (This depends on how you keep relationships at work. Personally, I wouldn't do this - my personal/professional sets overlap minimally) + Like everyone has already said - set targets. I would suggest you to meet everyone and define a concise road map for them. Discuss their career prospects and what they want to do with their lives. Tell them you are there to help it materialize (with or without the firm they are working for). Also, the last and the most important of this all based on the OP. AVOID appraisal of your team; there are two reasons for it 1 - It would be a bit unethical to appraise your team while being a part of it. The bias murmurs are not completely without basis. Ideally, you shouldn't be the one to appraise them - even if you do "Formally", ask the previous manager to write the appraisal ratings and you can "sign off" the form. 2 - It would make your managerial job much more comfortable and clean to start with. Why take the burden of someone else? No matter what dealing the management tries to give you, try to handle it with tact. Remember managing isn't about being right/wrong but about being ******smart******. My inputs were only based on the information I have from your post so take it with a pinch of salt.
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