Vijay.Sharma Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 you forgive those who deserve it.If you have to analyze merits before forgiving then you haven't truly forgiven. In the short term it is much easier to hold grudges than to forgive but if you can find the strength to forgive it will only make you stronger in life.
Crookbond Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 If you have to analyze merits before forgiving then you haven't truly forgiven. In the short term it is much easier to hold grudges than to forgive but if you can find the strength to forgive it will only make you stronger in life. +1
Stuge Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 If you have to analyze merits before forgiving then you haven't truly forgiven. In the short term it is much easier to hold grudges than to forgive but if you can find the strength to forgive it will only make you stronger in life. So true Forgiving others gives you peace of mind .
beetle Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 Relationships are complicated, and there's nothing you can do stop getting heartbroken - bad luck, shyte happens. One good thing is to vent about it, but only time will heal it all - I say hit the gym to vent all the frustrations, and get another girl. I believe for a guy, its more so coz she fell for another guy ( that too a friend ) and it hurts the ego then actual love Think about it, you never saw another girl and drooled about it? if she was outta town, and a hot girl just came naked to your room, you won't cheat? fk it, move on - in fact see it this way, now you gonna get a whole new package - unless it's hard for you to find girls then sorry, goto a strip club for a feel good experience Just to bunp your mood up ( something which happened to me and I had mentioned before ) Dumped twice by the same woman for 2 different men of the same name awwww:icflove::icflove::icflove::icflove::icflove::icflove:
akshayxyz Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 There is nothing like a universal truth other than death and impermanence. Other than that, there is your truth and then there is my truth. Yes, I implied in larger sense of life and not just relationship which to me is rather small piece in the larger jigsaw. Nothing remains still. Life itself is temporary and constantly changing. I dont mean to go on Deepak Chopra mode, but when your inner state of being is dependent on an outside event, we will be swinging like a pendulum with what is happening outside. The question is not whether we can or cannot have relationships that can last through entire life. Ofcourse it can. The question is whether should you develop a stake in it and develop expectations for long term. Human life and human minds are constantly changing. The person you fell in love with need not be the person you married to for 10 years. Sometimes, relationships just get sour and break up. You can spends month and years suffering, blaming, sulking over it. Or you can just embrace the reality that nothing is permanent. Life goes on until it doesn't and there are other dimensions to explore. ++++++ I have a "string theory" for that - the more strongly you attach to a string and more, the more painful it is, when they start breaking.. 1)If you cared about them and are too badly hurt by their action then follow Texy's advce.Dump both the sl*ts! 2) From the above quote it seems like you really care for your friend and would be open to forgiving him.If you ever care for a threesome then this is the time to ask for one:--DThe two cheating ****s would very likely be too guilty to refuse.This way you get to hurt this friend a bit and continue your friendship.You will probably be in a better mood to forgive too. 3) forgiving the GF is a bad idea......you don't have a long history with her and if she can cheat so early in the relationship you cannot trust her again. Anyways....don't trust this friend of yours with your future partners ever and make him feel guilty for the rest of his life. Make him pay for this. :two_thumbs_up: Best advice so far. think positive, making most out of the situation types..
ganeshran Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 Who wants a threesome with another dude and a girl. All the fantasies are about two girls and a guy
akshayxyz Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 I might sound unpopular now but just know this - the character of a human being is tested in adversity. If you can find the strength to forgive them now you will be at peace for the rest of your life as far as this incident is concerned. It takes courage to forgive. More importantly, one mistake must not end an otherwise great friendship. You haven't said anything about the relationship with the girl so I can't suggest anything about that relationship. But, your friend had the courage to admit his mistake and tell you about it. Is this one mistake so grave that you lose a lifetime of friendship? Of all you know you guys might laugh about this incident later in life you forgive those who deserve it. If you think through, its not about courage or anything. Its most logical way to maximize your life from that point on, by stopping wasting time on past that you cant change, and by channelizing your future efforts in constructive thoughts and not destructive. Keeping a grudge is going to be more detrimental for you and future, than you/(most of us) will ever be able to extract revenge.
akshayxyz Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 Relationships are complicated, and there's nothing you can do stop getting heartbroken - bad luck, shyte happens. One good thing is to vent about it, but only time will heal it all - I say hit the gym to vent all the frustrations, and get another girl. I believe for a guy, its more so coz she fell for another guy ( that too a friend ) and it hurts the ego then actual love Think about it, you never saw another girl and drooled about it? if she was outta town, and a hot girl just came naked to your room, you won't cheat? fk it, move on - in fact see it this way, now you gonna get a whole new package - unless it's hard for you to find girls then sorry, goto a strip club for a feel good experience Just to bunp your mood up ( something which happened to me and I had mentioned before ) Dumped twice by the same woman for 2 different men of the same name arey miyan, aap bhi koi dump karney waali cheez ho.. or may be you were just too heavy to carry , tabhi shayad gym-shym ka khyaal aaya :icf_love: seriously.. bold waala part bilkul sahi bola, one never knows what the situation would have been like for others, or how they themselves would have acted in similar situation..life is random..
akshayxyz Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 Who wants a threesome with another dude and a girl. All the fantasies are about two girls and a guy abey woh cyber-nanny s/w uninstall kar, tab pata chalega.
Texy Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 Who wants a threesome with another dude and a girl. All the fantasies are about two girls and a guy 2 almond 1 Ganeshran :headshake:
Crookbond Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 2 almond 1 Ganeshran :headshake: :hysterical: :hysterical: :hysterical: :hysterical:
Old guy Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 2 almond 1 Ganeshran :headshake: :hysterical::hysterical::hysterical::hysterical::hysterical::hysterical::hysterical::hysterical::hysterical::hysterical::hysterical::hysterical::hysterical::hysterical:
Lord Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 If you have to analyze merits before forgiving then you haven't truly forgiven. In the short term it is much easier to hold grudges than to forgive but if you can find the strength to forgive it will only make you stronger in life. I'm not saying bash him up or something.just leave him.so it is a kind of forgiveness.but I wouldnt have anything to with such a 'friend'.every time I'd see it'll remind me of the cheating he did.
ganeshran Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 2 almond 1 Ganeshran :headshake: :finger: 6 almonds
goose Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 insist they get married to each other and make you the best man. the end.
bangladeshifan Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 cheat her wiv her best frnd (if possible) then get a new girl nd then kick her outta ur life nd treat her lyk sh!t before doin that. make her feel like sh!t, make her cry, make her feel lyk so bad dat she jump off a feckin bridge......no mercy!!!
bangladeshifan Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 People who don't know any thing about the dynamics of his relationships aren't qualified to give advice. Now, a lot of posters here called this girl they know nothing about trash,*****,***** and then proceeded to offer advice. They do not know whether the girl loved his friend ,whether she herself told him about this or whether she felt bad about this A few others turned this into a joke post without knowing the mental state of the OP... So why solicit advice from unqualified people? dont bullcr@p okay!! nuffin justifies cheating ur partner specially wiv his/her best frnd. if u fall in love wiv sum1 else u shud make it clear nd break off before doin any silly thing. bcs cheating is cheating nd feeling bad abt it is not gud enuff
Clarke Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 [ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkSmLh2Hbi0]The Cars - My Best Friend's Girl - YouTube[/ame]
bangladeshifan Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 ^^ fix your English niggea! :giggle: help me niggea!!!
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