The unheard victims of violence (Gay Rape in India)

[vvvslaxman]

http://www.thehindu.com/features/metroplus/society/the-unheard-victims-of-violence/article5088311.ece?homepage=true A victim of gay gang rape speaks out after years of living in fear of mockery and ostracism Rape. Lately, this four letter word has been appearing with frightening regularity in the Indian media as gruesome cases, including the recent gang rape of a Mumbai photojournalist, get reported widely. These rape survivors try and pick up the pieces of their lives, deal with the physical and psychological consequences and fight for justice with stoic perseverance. “But what happens when a gay person is subjected to a similar act of violence? Does anyone even care when his or her dignity is undermined? In most instances, when such a subject is ever broached, most often it is the victim who ends up becoming the butt of myriad jokes,†says an agitated Ajay Chander (name changed on request), a victim of gayrape. As he narrates his harrowing tale, he observes, “Ever since the Delhi gang rape case, it seems as if rape cases have increased in a manifold way in India. But I want to bring to light the dilemma of many gay people who are subjected to similar brutality. I am a rape survivor.†As Chander says these words out loud, he fervently hopes that this would help him to “move on and bury the ghosts of my past that came back to life after the recent discussions about rapeâ€. He wants to be able to tackle those difficult memories, “For several years now, I have debated in my head about how to speak about this without falling into the many traps that have been laid out for people like me…How do I talk about it as a man without making it sound like I am elbowing myself into a space occupied by women survivors?†Twelve years ago, Chander was gang raped and the men who did this to him went as far as videotaping their brutality in order to force him into silence. He says, “I was 18 years old at that time. I had hooked up withsomeone online and went to meet him at an agreed spot. From there, things just spiralled out of control in a bizarre manner. I do not want to go into the details.†Visibly disturbed by the effort to even recall the incident, the young man stops to take a breath before he continues, “Every time a friend mentions gay porn, I shudder in panic wondering whether the video of my rape is circulating online.†Although many years have passed and Chander is now a vocal gay rights activist, he doesn’t feel safe in the company of unknown men. He has also toned down the feminine appeal of his appearance so that he doesn’t attract undue attention. Elaborating on the demons he is battling, he says, “I have censored my body for survival. I fear for the safety of my queer friends. When the memories of my rape come back to me, I am scared of sleeping alone even in my own home. Despite feeling stressed I try to be cheerful for the sake of my mother. I don’t want to trouble her by looking gaunt or hauntedâ€. Chander has always desisted from sharing his traumas with anyone as he feels that if “I speak about this, people will forget the rape and blame me for hooking up with a stranger, especially another manâ€. He doesn’t want to deal with this blame as well as be confronted with the memories of the violence. According to Chander, even when it happens to a man, rape is gendered violence. He recalls, “It happened to me because I was feminine. The men thought that I deserved it for not acting like a ‘man’. Sometimes rape is inflicted on men just to shame them; to, supposedly, insult them for their lack of masculinity. In whatever way it happens, it loops back to the question of gender.†This is one of the reasons why he has become a staunch feminist. “I was one even before I was raped. I didn’t need this violent lesson to turn feminist. But if I was to live with it, I decided to make this episode of violence, which I now feel in my bones, an embodied site of my feminism. I have tried to make use of it to understand gendered violence, to understand myself and this world just a little bit more,†he explains. Across India, there are gay and queer people like young Chander, who are waging lonely battles. Unfortunately, when it comes to institutional or legal support, they have little or no recourse. Rape laws are not applicable to male victims, even when they are homosexual. And although the Delhi High Court has decriminalised homosexuality by reading down the anti-sodomy law – Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code – the tag of homosexuality being an unnatural offence has not been removed from the statute of law. Only when the Supreme Court takes a stand on this issue canthe authorities act according to law. Manvendra Singh, gay rights activist and the first Indian gay person from former royalty to come out of the closet, puts it this way, “It’s really tragic that the voices of gay rape victims remain unheard. But then, I can’t really blame them because most of the time they have not come out into the open about their sexual orientation, so they fear social ostracism. And, in a few cases, when they do gather courage to reach out to the cops to register an FIR, they are mostly mocked at and their complaints remain unregistered. We are fighting against this injustice meted out to them. But change will come only once we have a clear law that legalises homosexuality. Of course, the process of changing mindsets will take an even longer while.†Until that happens, only the firm voices of men like Chander and Singh, keep up this fight for justice. (Women’s Feature Service)

[hhunaeh]

Does the indian state even recognize gay people? They call it unnatural sex, so i am not sure the state even acknowledges gay people's existence, let alone register crimes against them.

[Detonator]

As men are manly and are more expandable, violence againt men in general aren't cared about Be it a labour/soldier/victim of any abuse. Even the mass media glorifies the violence on men. On the other hand, as women are soft as flowers and it's a man's duty to protect a woman, generally more sympathy goes for them. A male abusing a male is a fight. A female mentally and physically abusing a male is viewed as a joke and if serious, it's viewed as women empowerment and people call her as a hero(ine). It might take decades for people to actually understand this.

[hhunaeh]

If you remember the WTF case when the Indian media and cops were busy finding out if pinki the athlete was a guy or not instead of investigating the rape charges against her. It is like they all refused to acknowledge that gay people can have sex. So how do you expect them to acknowledge gay rape?

[Detonator]

If you remember the WTF case when the Indian media and cops were busy finding out if pinki the athlete was a guy or not instead of investigating the rape charges against her. It is like they all refused to acknowledge that gay people can have sex. So how do you expect people to them acknowledge gay rape?

I think Indians forgot to copy the LGBT part of westernization.

[jalebi_bhai]

Feel sad for the victims in the article......but for me, online dating is a massive no-no......as a nation, we are still very backward in recognizing the LGBT causes.....and it will take a while for us to be progressive on the issue......

[beetle]

This is really sad. It is still the crime that cannot be talked about. Poor guys ...most can't even fall back on family and friends for support. I think there is also a misconception that men cannot dislike sex ....of any kind.Most men don't sympathize with these victims. I read an article how eunuchs also are very often victims of rape. Really sad.

[Bharat Nirmaan]

But how a guy can be raped? He has no vagina, do they insert organ in tatti wali jagah? OMG, its unnatural and sodomy. Also why it haunts them, men have no concept of virginity, girls preserve for their husband but men also need to?

[beetle]

Hey bhagwan!!!!!

[nikred]

But how a guy can be raped? He has no vagina' date=' do they insert organ in tatti wali jagah? OMG, its unnatural and sodomy. [b']Also why it haunts them, men have no concept of virginity, girls preserve for their husband but men also need to?

Are you saying you would be perfectly alright if someone forcefully shoves his junk into your a-hole???

[Crookbond]

But how a guy can be raped? He has no vagina' date=' do they insert organ in tatti wali jagah? OMG, its unnatural and sodomy. Also why it haunts them, men have no concept of virginity, girls preserve for their husband but men also need to?[/quote']

[asterix]

Are you saying you would be perfectly alright if someone forcefully shoves his junk into you' date=' [b']a-hole???

Corrected...

[jalebi_bhai]

But how a guy can be raped? He has no vagina' date=' do they insert organ in tatti wali jagah? OMG, its unnatural and sodomy. Also why it haunts them, men have no concept of virginity, girls preserve for their husband but men also need to?[/quote'] Seriously, how old are you??? Non-consensual intercourse/sex = rape Intercourse/sex with a partner below the designated age (age of consent) irrespective of consent = statutory rape It has nothing to do with gender.......

[SLICKR392]

But how a guy can be raped? He has no vagina' date=' do they insert organ in tatti wali jagah? OMG, its unnatural and sodomy. Also why it haunts them, men have no concept of virginity, girls preserve for their husband but men also need to?[/quote'] What the hell is wrong with this knuckle head?

[FischerTal]

But how a guy can be raped? He has no vagina' date=' do they insert organ in tatti wali jagah? OMG, its unnatural and sodomy. Also why it haunts them, men have no concept of virginity, girls preserve for their husband but men also need to?[/quote'] :WTF:

[Desi Cartman]

But how a guy can be raped? He has no vagina' date=' do they insert organ in tatti wali jagah? OMG, its unnatural and sodomy. Also why it haunts them, men have no concept of virginity, girls preserve for their husband but men also need to?[/quote'] Ho Gaya Bharat nirmaan :facepalm:

[Desi Cartman]

Does the indian state even recognize gay people? They call it unnatural sex' date=' so i am not sure the state even acknowledges gay people's existence, let alone register crimes against them.[/quote'] Even though you are right about govt not recognizing gay rights, this doesn't have anything to do with males getting raped. A person doesn't have to be gay to be raped by another male. Even current laws cover this aspect.

[hhunaeh]

Even though you are right about govt not recognizing gay rights' date=' this doesn't have anything to do with males getting raped. A person doesn't have to be gay to be raped by another male. Even current laws cover this aspect.[/quote'] And what about females?No possibility of sex ,so no chance of rape? Indian law has rigid definitions of sex. It needs certain acts by certain actors for it to be called sex, everything else is called unnatural/illegal. Rape laws follow from this rigid definition of sex.

[Debutant]

But how a guy can be raped? He has no vagina' date=' do they insert organ in tatti wali jagah? OMG, its unnatural and sodomy. Also why it haunts them, men have no concept of virginity, girls preserve for their husband but men also need to?[/quote'] :cantstop:

[Detonator]

But how a guy can be raped? He has no vagina' date=' do they insert organ in tatti wali jagah? OMG, its unnatural and sodomy. Also why it haunts them, men have no concept of virginity, girls preserve for their husband but men also need to?[/quote'] You have been mind raped.