zen Posted April 20 Posted April 20 A cousin of mine had an engaging conversation with an Air India cabin crew on a flight. He liked her and she liked him too. She was hoping that he would ask to exchange contact details. But he did not want to misinterpret a warm friendly behaviour by the flight attendant as anything more than that despite it being not (a failure to read subtle signals). He was the last person to get off the plane and she spoke to him as he was leaving. I told him - “Don’t worry, I will find her for you. What’s her name?” “I did not ask. But her name tag said this first name” “Okay, let’s see if we can find her on social media. You can send her a message and take it from there. If nothing else, you will have a good social media friend.” “Thanks!” So we searched social media but could not find her. We found other people with the same first name but not her. May be she used an alias on the name tag. AI has a generic “contact us” system. We are not sure how it works. Sending any personal message through such a system could also embarrass her (if passed on) while a generic message may not get passed on to her, remaining with the customer service team. So now the question is - how to find her without embarrassing ourselves and coming across as stalkers? Mariyam 1
G_B_ Posted April 20 Posted April 20 If you have the flight no. Maybe you can ask Ai that you want to share feedback on one attendent. Typically Ai staff do the same route for a while. I think you just need to find one staff on these routes
BacktoCricaddict Posted April 20 Posted April 20 56 minutes ago, zen said: She was hoping that he would ask to exchange contact details. How do we know this? Looks like this is the premise of the whole story.
zen Posted April 20 Author Posted April 20 (edited) 14 minutes ago, BacktoCricaddict said: How do we know this? Looks like this is the premise of the whole story. We have to accept it as that (otherwise it would like going on an unnecessary tangent). Now the goal is to try to find her in a respectful manner. Edited April 20 by zen
BacktoCricaddict Posted April 20 Posted April 20 19 minutes ago, zen said: We have to accept it as that Zen bole toh aisa. zen 1
zen Posted April 20 Author Posted April 20 3 minutes ago, BacktoCricaddict said: Zen bole toh aisa. Sgattick10 and BacktoCricaddict 1 1
diga Posted April 20 Posted April 20 Wonder if it's the cousin or zenbhai himself who has fallen Sgattick10 1
zen Posted April 21 Author Posted April 21 31 minutes ago, Lord said: What in the creepy stalking thread is this? Nothing creepy. It is about two people who overlooked exchanging contact details despite feeling a connection. Most of us have gone through such a situation in life. It is a relatively common situation.
randomGuy Posted April 21 Posted April 21 7 hours ago, BacktoCricaddict said: How do we know this? Looks like this is the premise of the whole story. J/K But seriously, @zen is doing a noble work (assuming the cousin is not him). Sgattick10 and The Dark Horse 2
Prakat Posted April 21 Posted April 21 Hang out outside the airport as the crew usually deploys after a overnight stay. Reminds me of this missed encounter when a bunch of us went clubbing and one of the guys had sparks with a girl. She took his phone and entered her number and gave it a ring and left with her friends. A few minutes later one of the older men got a call from their wife and while they were speaking his battery went dead. He immediately asked for the guy's phone as he had the same model, took his battery out (this is back in 2001) and swapped it into his own phone to resume his conversation. The night wore on, eventually we stepped out, immaculately tired out, and our friend who had been on an endorphin high for the entire night, got his battery back, switched his phone on on and discovered that the recent dialled numbers list had been erased because the battery had been removed. Inconsolable does not begin to describe his reaction. Sgattick10, Mariyam, BacktoCricaddict and 2 others 5
rangeelaraja Posted April 21 Posted April 21 8 hours ago, zen said: A cousin of mine had an engaging conversation with an Air India cabin crew on a flight. He liked her and she liked him too. She was hoping that he would ask to exchange contact details. But he did not want to misinterpret a warm friendly behaviour by the flight attendant as anything more than that despite it being not (a failure to read subtle signals). He was the last person to get off the plane and she spoke to him as he was leaving. I told him - “Don’t worry, I will find her for you. What’s her name?” “I did not ask. But her name tag said this first name” “Okay, let’s see if we can find her on social media. You can send her a message and take it from there. If nothing else, you will have a good social media friend.” “Thanks!” So we searched social media but could not find her. We found other people with the same first name but not her. May be she used an alias on the name tag. AI has a generic “contact us” system. We are not sure how it works. Sending any personal message through such a system could also embarrass her (if passed on) while a generic message may not get passed on to her, remaining with the customer service team. So now the question is - how to find her without embarrassing ourselves and coming across as stalkers? If the connection is so genuine and deep - I would advise your cousin to fly Air India again -- on the the same route. If she's based on that route, there's a real chance of crossing paths. Even in the worst case if she isn't a cabin crew in that flight -he may find some other crew members - and he could get the information from them. Share the name - share the flight number and travel date.
goose Posted April 21 Posted April 21 develop an abundance mindset. or have a wank. him i mean Lord and The Dark Horse 2
zen Posted April 21 Author Posted April 21 We will look into the suggestions offered here. But I learned that airline cabin crew has access to an app that gives passenger details - profile, preferences, etc., to serve them better. I am convinced that the FA has looked up the details of my cousin. So from the earlier assumption that “no bridge exists” (so we were trying to create one), we can now say that “a bridge (however minute) does exist”. If she has his name, she will eventually search him up too. However, I recall reading that only 1 in 20 women initiate. Women are used to men taking the initiative, but that is the part of the regular dating arena. We don’t necessarily care for the regular. Therefore, this is actually a good way to see if she is 1 in 20. Let’s see how the story unfolds.
BacktoCricaddict Posted April 21 Posted April 21 4 minutes ago, zen said: Let’s see how the story unfolds. Can't wait to see it on Netflix! Sgattick10 1
bsriharsha Posted April 22 Posted April 22 On 4/20/2026 at 11:57 PM, zen said: A cousin of mine had an engaging conversation with an Air India cabin crew on a flight. He liked her and she liked him too. She was hoping that he would ask to exchange contact details. But he did not want to misinterpret a warm friendly behaviour by the flight attendant as anything more than that despite it being not (a failure to read subtle signals). He was the last person to get off the plane and she spoke to him as he was leaving. I told him - “Don’t worry, I will find her for you. What’s her name?” “I did not ask. But her name tag said this first name” “Okay, let’s see if we can find her on social media. You can send her a message and take it from there. If nothing else, you will have a good social media friend.” “Thanks!” So we searched social media but could not find her. We found other people with the same first name but not her. May be she used an alias on the name tag. AI has a generic “contact us” system. We are not sure how it works. Sending any personal message through such a system could also embarrass her (if passed on) while a generic message may not get passed on to her, remaining with the customer service team. So now the question is - how to find her without embarrassing ourselves and coming across as stalkers? How to sound like a creep without actually being a creep.
zen Posted April 22 Author Posted April 22 5 minutes ago, bsriharsha said: How to sound like a creep without actually being a creep. a farcical situation
Mariyam Posted April 23 Posted April 23 On 4/21/2026 at 10:45 PM, zen said: We will look into the suggestions offered here. But I learned that airline cabin crew has access to an app that gives passenger details - profile, preferences, etc., to serve them better. I am convinced that the FA has looked up the details of my cousin. So from the earlier assumption that “no bridge exists” (so we were trying to create one), we can now say that “a bridge (however minute) does exist”. If she has his name, she will eventually search him up too. However, I recall reading that only 1 in 20 women initiate. Women are used to men taking the initiative, but that is the part of the regular dating arena. We don’t necessarily care for the regular. Therefore, this is actually a good way to see if she is 1 in 20. Let’s see how the story unfolds. For your cousin, speaking to this particular flight attendant maybe a black swan event in the context of his life/travel history. But the flight attendant must be speaking to 10s of passengers with that kind of connect. From the flight manifests she could get your cousins contact details if she were really keen. Lets see how if unfolds. Sgattick10 1
zen Posted April 23 Author Posted April 23 (edited) 2 hours ago, Mariyam said: For your cousin, speaking to this particular flight attendant maybe a black swan event in the context of his life/travel history. But the flight attendant must be speaking to 10s of passengers with that kind of connect. From the flight manifests she could get your cousins contact details if she were really keen. Lets see how if unfolds. Yeah, he is upset that he let himself down by not taking the initiative. The FA worked on a different aisle but changed to his aisle to serve briefly. Frequently, opened the overhead bin above him for no reason. Lingered in his aisle to help the passengers around him. Even though not in her assigned aisle, she picked up food tray from the seat adjacent to him and the seats in front of him. And when he looked at her hoping that she would pick up her tray too, she turned away shyly to not pick it up. The regular FA of his aisle picked up his tray, understanding what was happening b/w the two (also probably thinking this guy is dumb). When the seat belt sign was on, he asked her, as she was now seated nearby, if he could use the washroom quickly. But she scolded him stylishly to remain in his seat - you do understand that we are going through a turbulence and the seat belt sign is on? … Later when the “seat belt” sign turned off, the regular FA told him now you can use the washroom. Every time she served on the other aisle, her eyes were on him and his on hers. At times, she would make funny faces at him, and he would smile instinctively at seeing her working enthusiastically. She would mirror that immediately while flipping her hair. She gave him an opportunity to initiate while he was exiting the plane as well. He is used to getting female attention so he thought it is one of those days but only after he got off the flight he realized how special the experience was. It was as if months of such romantic interactions were compressed on this flight. It was as if a connection was being “fast tracked”. In a way, it was also as if she wrote him a poetry 30,000 feet above the ground. She showcased her emotions genuinely in his presence. The other crew members saw her interest in him and his in her. People are used to being attracted to acquaintances and friends, people they come across relatively regularly, so this experience caught him off guard. This was an outlier situation that required him to ditch the usual restraint - let’s see where this goes as we will cross paths again. He needed to act on it, at least initiate, if she refused, that’s fine. He can handle a rejection. But now he is stuck in “what if”. Anyways, we tried searching for her online to see if we could create a bridge but have failed so far. Now the ball is in her court as she most likely has his info (at least his name, if not the contact info) from the cabin crew app or the passenger manifest. If nothing happens, he would be left with a happy memory of feeling a genuine emotional connection. If she reaches out in some way, it would confirm that she is indeed special. Edited April 23 by zen Sgattick10 and Mariyam 2
zen Posted April 23 Author Posted April 23 A potential obstacle for her to reach out would be if she feels that she was eventually rejected despite her poetic efforts. However, she is also likely to play the interactions in a loop when free, alone in her hotel room, etc., so that could give her the clarity to eventually nudge her towards an action.
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